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Here I am at my standing desk writing my debut novel

I didn’t know I had it in me to write fiction. I’ve always been a non-fiction writer of articles and books in my professional careers. I love the power of words and the act of wordsmithing to inform and inspire about real facts and situations. But suddenly in the middle of all the catastrophes of 2020, I discovered a fictional story bubbling out of my soul like a volcanic eruption.
I let it flow.

Let’s face it, this year has been full of surprises with the global pandemic spilling its life-changing influences into every part of our existence. My work transformed into virtual client sessions and online meetings. Fortunate at least to be living in Southwest Florida, I had outdoor outlets playing tennis and golf. That is until I slipped off boulders on a beach walk breaking my arm and needing to undergo surgery. …


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Photo by Aziz Acharki on Unsplash

Powers are changing but probably not in the way you may think. Clearly no one can deny that we‘re living in a time of flux and confusion. In these unfathomable days of anguish from COVID, racial unrest, ugly political spectacles, and global uncertainties, the chaos is overwhelming and all consuming. Universally we find ourselves numbly chanting “when will it end?”

In watching a recent program by Gregg Braden — scientist, author, scholar and pioneer in science, social policy, and human potential — I’m grateful to find answers to many of our current anxieties and unknowns in his over 35 years of remarkable research. …


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It was a sun-kissed Florida morning, heavy with humidity which is typical for July. I had decided to meet a friend for a beach walk. Months of non-socializing due to Covid-19 made the idea of physically distancing outdoors on the white sands along the Gulf of Mexico with Linda an attractive draw. I even blew off a 9:30am ZOOM business meeting in my haste to be immersed in nature. After all it was a Friday in the middle of summer!

My convertible top was down, and I was cruising along the Tamiami Trail from Naples to Bonita Springs. I baked in the hot sun at stoplights but otherwise felt the rush of the wind and took in the cerulean skies dotted with blurs of lush green palm trees as I whizzed past. Deeply intense colors seemed to engulf me as if from the palette of a master painter and reminded me of the special glow of light that I used to appreciate in Arles in the south of France this time of year. …


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Our minds are on fire; our foundations are being destroyed.

Reality appears terrifying. The confluence of a global pandemic with economic strife now amplified by racial protests has touched me and every one of us in profound ways. I doubt we would have arrived at such deeply shared experiences without the shocking and pervasive disruptions to daily life. COVID-19 forced a screeching halt to “normal” times of school, work, recreation…and I — like you — had to pay attention.

With the world turned upside down, I began to see my life and society through an altered lens. Each day carried new revelations of death tolls, epidemiology, virus spread, financial disaster…and then came the videotaped murder of a black man by police which fell upon an already impacted, tense and isolated population. …


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Change is tough and the Coronavirus pandemic is causing a daily tsunami of changes at a frightening pace. We desperately crave certainty and routine; to return to a semblance of normalcy. Instead we’re inundated with wild fluctuations to our way of life and face an unimaginable future. This leads to heightened levels of exhaustion, anger and sinking deeply into fear and depression. We need to stop, get calm and engage our minds to understand what is happening and what we can do to survive, and maybe, even thrive.

As a Personal Development Coach, I can tell you that a terrified brain cannot think clearly. Just observe the racial discord erupting across the U.S. The more you resist, the more you descend into panic. Carl Jung wisely said: “What you resist, persists.” Letting go of the past is hard because you’re used to the “way it’s been.” But it’s time to connect to the present to discern facts and realities. You cannot see solutions with a mind in a turbulent spin or stuck looking at where you’ve been. Where are you going? …


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Want the Best Way To Stop Anxiety Right Now?

As our lives are turned upside down because of the global Coronavirus pandemic, we face overwhelming uncertainties. Emotions rage and fear rattles us to the very core of our mortality. In this time of frantic re-adjustments, most people need instantaneous ways of coping with the ups and downs.

I’ve had my own share of dealing with the COVID-19 roller coaster. Sifting through ever-changing facts and moment to moment behavioral shifts are enough to cause a primal scream to accidentally bubble up out of anyone. A trip to the grocery store is now a battle-like preparation with mask and gloves; a cough or sneeze causes a heart-stopping moment of concern. Social connections have been relegated to a “Brady-Bunch” screen-share of talking heads. So, I’ve been trotting out my own strategies to manage the challenges. As a Personal Development Coach trained in both western and eastern traditions, I combine many methods to help clients overcome traumas. So, what is the best way to manage anxiety in this moment? In this article, I share the top six techniques that I use. …


You’ve lost your job and you feel like you’re in a raging storm. The sun is blocked from your view, yet you know the sun still shines as it orbits out there in the universe. Eventually the light and warmth will re-emerge. But when?

Clearly the impact of the global pandemic is personal. Losing a job is crushing. When we hear news of people suffering in another part of the world, we may feel a degree of compassion, but then we continue focusing on our own affairs. Now it is you. It is me. We are the ones in distress. It has hit home. What will tomorrow look like? …


(It is tough, but I am doing it and you can, too!)

COVID-19 has changed our lives forever. We are never returning to the “normalcy” we once accepted (which was not normal after all). Instead we are on a rollercoaster of unstoppable emotions as we adjust to a sanitized, masked life filled with fears and anxieties.

STRESS IS HARMFUL
To survive the daily twists, turns and continuous threats, we must cultivate an inner peacefulness. This is undeniably tough yet highly necessary. Without doing so, we are doomed to succumb to stress hormones rampantly coursing through our bodies activating a constant state of fight-or-flight. Such a biological response without pause puts our immune system on hiatus and messes with our digestion and other non-essential functions. Stress destroys our homeostatic balance and renders us far more susceptible to illnesses…like viruses! To thrive, we need to be calm; now more than ever. …


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You may notice the tiny life-like orange speck on-stage in the distance wildly waving her arms. That’s me, addressing an audience of over 200 CEOs from around the United States. As a keynote speaker, I’m happy to share advice with you if you’re serious about wanting to captivate audiences.

So first ask yourself: do you have an impactful message to deliver and one worthy of sharing? Some speakers fixate on their personal agendas which is commonly about selling a product or service. There’s nothing improper with that except that you’ll lose your audience in a flash. Today’s audiences demand objective communication and honest content with authenticity (just like writing on Medium!). …


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Photo by Skyler King on Unsplash

Let’s face it, our world is nerve wracking. We live in such a fast-paced lifestyle that gives us little time to recover or respond. The upshot is that many of us find day to day life exhausting as we’ve not developed skills to manage or deflect the onslaught of disturbances. We feel a ceaseless peppering of insecurities, fears and impending doom. Panic attacks, anxiety, and stress-related symptoms are on the uptick. So are we each questioning if we might be silently suffering mental illness? Many of my clients are asking: “Is something wrong with me?” …

About

Peggy Sealfon

Personal Development Coach, Author, Speaker. Internationally-recognized expert on reducing stress and anxiety. Inspires and motivates. PeggySealfon.com

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